Having a Miscarriage Isn't Minimizing the Suffering of Your Wife

We are predestined to be conformed into the image of Christ and we can't be conformed in the image of the suffering servant unless we're suffering. yeah and that passage where it speaks about him doing working all things together for the good of those who love God and called according to his purpose and so forth you know it reminds us  that we are predestining to be conforming into the images of Christ.Yeah I want to say to two husbands and fathers in miscarriage is acknowledging your own grief is not minimizing the suffering of your wife sometimes I think we're afraid to say I'm crushed by this because we think of miscarriage as a woman's thing.