I think I'm in a very fortunate position that he has been comfortable sort of taking just a different path and really being the primary parent for our daughter. He doesn't worry as much about those breaks, like being out of the workforce and then trying to get back in. Whereas I think if I did that, I would worry a lot about my kind of on-brand back into my career. So certainly communicating your expectations has been absolutely key to making it work.
Women are increasingly supporting our families financially. It can feel empowering to be the sole or primary earner, but many of us feel pressure to be both an ideal worker and an ideal mother. We hear from a woman who supports a stay-at-home husband and three sons.
Then, Alyson Byrne, an expert on status and gender, fills us in about the research on women as financial providers — for example, the more we financially contribute, the better our psychological well-being. (Yay.) She has tips on managing the professional side and the personal side of being the chief breadwinner. And Maureen Hoch, Women at Work’s supervising editor, shares her experience of being her family’s primary earner.
Our HBR reading list:
“Does a Woman’s High-Status Career Hurt Her Marriage? Not If Her Husband Does the Laundry,” by Alyson Byrne and Julian Barling
“Whether a Husband Identifies as a Breadwinner Depends on Whether He Respects His Wife’s Career — Not on How Much She Earns,” by Erin Reid
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