I think one of the hardest things in loving or caring about somebody who's struggling with something is that we don't necessarily have control over how they respond to what we try to give them. And so, you know, coming from a place of if, if my approach is, is tough love in terms of what you're describing and like what you're being honest and true to yourself. Does that feel true for you? I mean, I think people can feel congruency. They can feel care and tough love. So when we talk about tough love and oftentimes it is working families to be like, this isn't mean. This is actually the most loving thing you could do for