When we tell somebody what to do, they actually will almost automatically be able to do something. And that's the thing we need to learn from this fable: When we try to define them instead of define ourselves, there will not only be resistance, but there will actually be the opposite effect. The second takeaway from this is that seriousness can really bind our thinking. That's what the moth is actually seeing in him. But how much is this like when we are feeling under pressure and we are super serious?