Safety Is an Inside Job

The ticket to intimacy is vulnerability, and it's really hard for us to be willing to be vulnerable if we don't feel safe. If our safety's been violated around vulnerability, we're unlikely to open ourselves up to get the intimacy that so many of us want. So sometimes in response to those same boundary violations, we'll, as you describe, the pendulum will swing over to the rigid side or people will just wall up.

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