Ask yourself where the goal came on. Call um number three, is there a part of this goal that is about what other people think? And you'll tend to find if you write down all your goals is some of those are going to actually be coming from you. The last thing to do is acknowledge that it's hard. Acknowledge that the world is changing and the demands on you are very legitimate and very heavy. We're not saying you should just do the things that are heatanistic and enjoyable for yourself.