Relationship Advice - What I Love About You?

If we were better able to address some of the problems in our relationship, i got a hunch that we're going to enjoy our good times together even more. An assumption sounds like this, you must not love me very much. Could you appeal to a set of shared values? I know how much we value having fun together. If you heard yourself in any of those the threats, guilt trips, the comparisons, the character assassinations, the assumptions or the judgments, i just want to ask you to put a hand on your heart and just breathe in some self compassion. There is no need to make yourself bad or wrong. We know that shame is a very crappy motivator for change