You Get to Hold Judgment or You Get to Hold Grace

i think that one of the big questions for me, i'd mentioned im just a bit before, was, why would the state allow, you know, two alcoholics with a history of them being abused, adopt a child? And so i had a lot of questions round the rightness of this. And i was working with a sematic therapist, and i was asking this question, and this is probably nine years after discovery. She very gently said, listen, you get to hold judgment, or you getting to hold graceand you can't do both. So there are times when i find myself in judgment,  why did you lie? Why wouldn't you talk to me about