Brené Brown says perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought. If I look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of blame, judgment, and shame. The fear of failing, making mistakes, not meeting people's expectations keeps us outside the arena where healthy competition and striving unfolds. How can we escape this need to appear perfect? Benjamin drove me a little crazy to be honest. He was afraid to be rubbish, afraid to try and fail. And if you are petrified of failure, if you're petrified of making a mistake of embarrassing yourself in some way, then you won't be very bold in