827. Why Dating Feels Harder Than Ever Today (+ The Mindset Shifts You Need)
Almost 30
How childhood shapes dating choices
Stephen and hosts discuss parentification, trauma responses, and how upbringing affects desire for kids and commitment.
In this episode, K+L sit down with relationship expert, bestselling author, and acclaimed pastor Stephen Chandler. From the influence of dating apps + social media to what’s really holding people back from finding a partner, Stephen breaks down the mindset shifts you NEED for true love.
Ahead, Stephen reveals empowering strategies for women to attract high-quality partners, how to deal with financial expectations, and why long-lasting love starts with crystal-clear self-awareness. Stephen also shares his own marriage insights + shocking truths about choosing the “one.”
Stephen tackles some of the biggest questions of your dating life: when to have the “serious talks,” whether you can change someone, and the surprising ways childhood patterns affect your adult relationships. If you want to know what’s missing from today’s dating landscape, this one’s for you!
We also talk about:
- Why so many relationships end because of dopamine addiction
- The truth about finances + work ethic in a partner
- How to figure out if your personal values (really) align
- The role of discipline + boundaries around sex before marriage—beyond just religion
- Why women are out-earning + out-growing the current dating pool
- How childhood + generational trauma shows up in your love life + commitment fears
- Setting a clear “dating timeline” so you don’t waste your time
- Powerful tips for not falling into the trap of rescuing or “fixing” a partner
- The importance of taking action (not just praying or hoping) to meet your person
- The difference between net worth + true legacy when building your dream life
Resources:
- Website: https://www.stephenrchandler.com/
- Book: Relationship Road Map: Step-By-Step Directions to Finding Your Spouse (Jan. 21, 2025)
- Instagram: @stephenrchandler
- TikTok: @stephenrchandler_
- YouTube: weareunionchurch
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- Order our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: https://bit.ly/Almost30Book.
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