Character assassination and gossip are primarily tools that women have used over centuries as a means to defend themselves. It's why, in work places, most women are bullied by other women. And only the mode is not violence or threats, it's character assassination. Women use the information that they get very effectively. Men have not shown that propensity, through the studies, to be as effective.
Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners.