For some reason, we've grown to assume that a simple two way love from the beginning doesn't exist. You should not have to convince someone to want something more with you. Make yourself unavailable to anything that is one-sided or where you have to win someone's affection. The theme here with this episode is reciprocity. If you show up and you offer the things you say you themselves want and you deserve in a partner, that is the measuring stick. No chasing.