
How We Stay Close When Life Gets Loud ft. Jessica Hagner
The Dad Edge Podcast
Creating a Safe Space for Honest Communication
This chapter explores the essential elements of communication and honesty in a relationship. The speakers share how fostering emotional safety has strengthened their partnership and positively impacted their family dynamics and parenting.
In this heartfelt episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I’m joined once again by my wife, Jessica Hagner, to share an inside look at how we approach marriage, parenting, and family life as a team. From building respect and handling conflict to raising four boys with shared values, this conversation is packed with personal stories, laughter, and real-life strategies for staying connected through all of life’s ups and downs.
We talk about how we’ve learned to operate in parenting, the role of respect in every interaction, and the tools that help us resolve conflict without damaging trust. Jessica opens up about her perspective as a wife and mother, and together, we discuss the importance of modeling the behavior we want to see in our kids. Whether you’re in the early years of marriage or decades in, this episode offers encouragement and actionable ways to strengthen your family relationships.
TIMELINE SUMMARY
[0:00] - Welcome and why this conversation with Jessica matters
[2:12] - The role of mutual respect in keeping a marriage strong
[5:07] - How we handle conflict and keep trust intact
[9:15] - Parenting as a united front and setting shared expectations
[13:28] - Balancing structure and flexibility with four boys
[16:44] - Teaching respect by modeling it in our marriage
[20:15] - How we navigate disagreements in front of our kids
[23:51] - Creating space for connection in a busy household
[27:06] - The importance of making each child feel seen and valued
[30:42] - Our approach to discipline without creating resentment
[34:25] - How parenting styles evolve as kids grow
[38:18] - Keeping romance alive while raising a family
[42:56] - The value of open, honest communication in marriage
[46:39] - Leading our family spiritually and emotionally
[50:20] - Why grace matters as much as structure in parenting
[54:14] - Final reflections on building a family rooted in respect and love
5 KEY TAKEAWAYS
1. Respect Is the Foundation
Every strong marriage and family dynamic begins with mutual respect—how we speak to each other, handle disagreements, and set the tone for our household.
2. Conflict Can Strengthen Connection
When handled with honesty and empathy, disagreements can build trust instead of breaking it. It’s not about avoiding conflict—it’s about navigating it well.
3. Parent as a Team
Kids thrive when they see their parents united. Operating from the same playbook creates stability and prevents division in the home.
4. Model the Behavior You Want to See
Children learn more from what you do than what you say. By demonstrating respect, patience, and grace, we set the example for how they’ll treat others.
5. Grace Balances Structure
Rules and boundaries are essential, but grace creates a safe and loving environment where kids can learn from their mistakes without fear.
LINKS & RESOURCES
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