In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body.

If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” or “I’ll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now.

Shanenn introduces a nervous system-based approach to jealousy, built around her signature BAM Method: Body And Mind. You’ll learn how to stop shaming your reactions, calm your nervous system, and respond in a healthier way—rather than fear, panic, or reactivity.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone stuck in the cycle of body-based jealousy and emotional spirals.

Golden Episode Nuggets:

💎 Jealousy isn’t crazy—it’s a stored survival response from your nervous system

💎 Your body reacts before your brain can even form a thought

💎 BAM = Body And Mind (Breathe, Acknowledge, Move) is your new reset tool

💎 A safer body allows you to choose a better thought

💎 Explaining your nervous system reactions to your partner can build deeper understanding

Key Moments:

3:25 – Why jealousy can’t be “thought away” (and why 95% of your reactions aren’t logical)
7:17 – The real reason your stomach drops when he texts—and what your nervous system is doing
10:28 – Introducing BAM: Why calming your body comes before calming your thoughts
15:02 – The “hot stove” analogy to help explain jealousy to your partner
19:33 – BAM, defined: Breathe. Acknowledge. Move.
24:51 – What to do when your body believes an old wound is happening again
27:42 – How to shift into your “choice moment” once your body feels safe

Resources Mentioned:

Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp – Join the next session starting June 18th. Register here
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Shanenn's new podcast:
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- On YouTube Lead Without Limits

Quote of the Episode:

“When your body feels safe, your brain can finally tell the truth.”

Perfect for listeners who:

Feel overwhelmed by jealousy, even when “nothing is happening”
Struggle with reactivity, spiraling thoughts, or reassurance-seeking
Want to learn nervous system tools to feel safe in their relationship
Are ready to replace shame with self-compassion and emotional safety
Are doing the deep work to heal attachment wounds and regulate from the inside out

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