Introduction

Hey Fried Fans,

This week’s episode has been a long time coming and something that I’ve thought a lot about over the years.

It’s about privilege and the good and bad of how it’s interwoven with burnout.

It is extremely difficult for people that I grew up with to accept that they are the recipients of any sort of privilege and I understand why. Fall River, Massachusetts isn’t a city that dreams are made of. Our police motto is “We’ll Try” and we’ve been high on the list of most heroin per capita since long before the opioid epidemic. It is a downtrodden place that comes with an extreme sense of pride - that pride sometimes feels like the only thing that keeps the city going.

Most families I knew growing up, including my own, struggled to make ends meet, often working multiple jobs to keep the lights on and food in the fridge. Having this as your lifestyle and acknowledging your privilege is a big ask. There is no room for feeling privileged or worrying about how others are disadvantaged when you’re simply trying to survive yourself.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs tells us that unless basic needs are met (basic being defined as: food, shelter, drink, clothing, warmth, and some level of stability) it is nearly impossible to expect anyone to be reaching toward ‘higher’ ideals such as self-actualization and personal growth. I believe that it is in this area of personal growth that one can begin to identify one’s privilege.

At least, that’s how it worked for me.

It wasn’t until I was highly successful that I was able to turn around and realize that my life was easier because of the following factors:

1. White Skin
2. A 2 parent home
3. Supportive, involved parents that encouraged reading and education 
4. A large, well connected extended family
5. A close circle of friends around my parents
6. Always having enough food, a place to live, clean clothes, and heat in the winter
7. Cis gendered
8. In a hetero relationship
9. Able-bodied
10. Sporty physique

None of those things prevented me from burning out. They did make it easier for me to find help when I was burnt out AND they kept me on a burnout cycle because I was comparing my life situation to lives around me and taking note of my luck and my privilege. 

Every single aspect of your life that makes you unsafe: Mentally, physically, and emotionally - can lead to burnout.

So yes, recognize your privilege and also pay attention to what created a lack of safety in your life, at any stage. Recognize your privilege and also give yourself the space for grace and the right to heal. Recognize your privilege and acknowledge your burnout - because you healing your nervous system will affect everyone you come into contact with. Adding more regulated nervous systems to the world raises us all up - the more regulated we are, the less likely we are to create more trauma for others - the more likely we are to recognize another’s pain and take action toward solving it.

If you’re privileged and burnt out - Please know this: Recognizing and healing your burnout helps you AND all of us. You deserve to heal no matter how ‘good’ you’ve got it.

If you want to listen to an episode on Burnout and Racism, please go listen to the episode that I recorded with Khadijah Tishan Washington. 

We all need to bring our regulated nervous systems to the world so that the world can start to heal. 

If you’re burnt out and you’re denying it because you’re privileged: book a call now. Let’s get started healing.

If you’re burnt out and you’re underprivileged and coaching is out of your range: book a call now. Let’s get started healing.

There is a group called Peer Hopes, you can find them at https://peerhopes.com, that offers low cost 1:1 and group counseling.

You all deserve to heal.

<3

XOXO

C

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