Do You Have Control?

When i was in the firm and dealing with other people, i i faced this exacty same problem. And this is how i dealt with it. The way you do your own work alot, you have a lot more control in that than you do in any other way. You can go into a meeting with an agenda. If someone calls you to a meeting and you have anything to do with it, sent an agenda out the day before. It comes back to what you're just talking about: managing xpectations which can be scary but also good.