How to Have a Conversation With Your Boyfriend

I think that it's either a casual, if possible, conversation with the boyfriend also present and having gotten on the same page ahead of time. Or maybe it is just a conversation you have with your boyfriend and then you ask your boyfriend to have this conversation with his parents. I wouldn't necessarily bring up like, you found this note and you bought all these personal things and it was really offended. Like, I would just try to make it like, it makes me feel more comfortable and like there's a less of an imbalance if we agree on some of these things beforehand. That's what I would do. And hopefully they are, you know, if they're generous, hopefully they are