Understanding Splitting and Deception

The Love You Hate You Types - High Conflict Borderline Personalities

In this episode of "It's All Your Fault," Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the world of high conflict borderline personality types, also known as the "Love You Hate You" types. They provide insights and strategies for dealing with these challenging individuals who can quickly turn from charming to rage-filled.

Understanding the High Conflict Borderline Personality

Bill and Megan discuss the defining characteristics of individuals with high conflict borderline personality, including their struggle with emotional regulation and tendency to see people in all-or-nothing terms. They note that while not all individuals with borderline personality disorder have a high conflict personality, more than half of them do, making it a significant concern in interpersonal relationships.

Navigating Relationships and Key Takeaways

The hosts provide examples of how high conflict borderline personalities may behave in various settings and discuss the concept of "splitting" and the propensity for lying and seeking revenge. They offer key takeaways, such as setting boundaries and the possibility of treatment and recovery for those affected.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What are the defining characteristics of high conflict borderline personalities?
• How prevalent is borderline personality disorder, and what percentage also have a high conflict personality?
• Why do high conflict borderline personalities often engage in lying and seeking revenge?

Key Takeaways:

• High conflict borderline personalities often struggle with emotional regulation and see people in all-or-nothing terms.
• Lying and seeking revenge are common behaviors stemming from a fear of abandonment.
• Treatment and recovery are possible for individuals with high conflict borderline personality disorder.

This episode provides valuable information and insights for anyone dealing with a high conflict borderline personality in their life, offering strategies for managing these challenging relationships and maintaining well-being.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
  • Calming Upset People with EAR
  • Dating Radar
  • High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
• COURSES
  • Strategies for Helping Clients with Borderline Personalities in Divorce
  • Conflict Influencer™ Class
• ARTICLES
  • Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law
  • Living with High-Conflict People: Do’s and Don’ts for Living with a Borderline High Conflict Person
  • Why I Wrote Splitting
  • Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder in Family Law Cases
  • 7 Tips for Working with Clients with Borderline Personality Disorder
  • Living on the Edge: Borderline High Conflict People
  • Can High-Conflict People Change?
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:37) - 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Part 3
• (01:10) - Borderline Personality
• (07:39) - What does the term mean?
• (08:50) - Looking for Connection
• (10:42) - Statistics
• (14:03) - High Sensitivity
• (16:26) - Splitting
• (18:22) - Lying
• (22:01) - Apologizing
• (24:47) - Why Vindictive?
• (28:46) - Finding Success
• (32:51) - Empathy
• (35:08) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Domestic Violence

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