Are Parents Too Wrapped in Theirself?

When parents are too wrappd in themselves, kids grow up in homes where parents are unable to conceive of the child according to their particular and individual needs. And when children go up in homes like this, they are riddled with a lack of self confidence and plagued with deep insecurities. Are they celebrated and encouraged for being the people that god is making them out to be? Or do they receive love and affirmation anda nation based on their performance?