How to Work in Non Monogamy in a Healthy and Constructive Way

i think it's a real shame for people to go without sex for long periods of time just for the pure sake of monogamy. Especially if you are not physically able to satisfy your partner because of distance constraints, i think it's perfectly ethical and quite responsible to arrange or encourage them to seek out physical satisfaction close to them. You don't have to organize things for her, although i have done that in the past two for women that are particularly shy about initiating things with another guy. It's very selfish, i think, of people to sort of expect fidelity from one person but not be willing to give it themselves.