I Feel Better and Sadder at the Same Time

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The pain after he died was intolerable. And now there are long stretches where I don't have any pain. So when I watch a movie about a dad whose son is sick and I start crying, feels weirdly good. It's like I miss this sadness because it reminds me of my son. But once you open this door into this varsity depression club or whatever, of like people who have felt something that the other people haven't felt, you're like, oh, this, this club is actually limitless.

There’s one thing that connects all living beings – an experience so profound yet so common. Today’s guest, Michael Cruz Kayne says it best: “It's gonna happen to you, to the people you love – even to the people you hate. Whether we like it or not, we are going to die. For sure.” Yet despite its inevitability, it can be so hard for us to speak about death and loss. So how can we begin to open up about grief, and show up for others who are experiencing it? Michael is a writer, comedian, and the host of the podcast “A Good Cry”. Michael’s son Fisher died when he was just days old. In this episode, Michael talks about his experience and how talking about his emotions helped him heal, and shares times when humor was -- and wasn’t -- able to capture the ineffable seemingly-endless experience of loss. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts