Learning to Become a Better Person

In general involving children in their own process of development helping them see and understand what it means to become a better person or act in a way that is kinder. I remember as a kid really valuing understanding why things needed to happen. If we spend the first 18 years of our life only behaving in certain ways because we know if we have good behavior we're going to be rewarded, how are we expected to do that as adults? It's much more difficult when you don't learn those skills as a child.