Couple Therapy: The Challenge of Dealing With Otherness

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The journey is to negotiate otherness. In the crisis that always gets created between a couple, it's always ultimately a crisis about otherness. How do you deal with the fact that your partner is different from you? It's what you need and it's what you will struggle with. So we need to become more political system, less evangelists for our own way. Love it. Yes. Isn't that interesting? Because when you think about the otherness, it either leads to this pattern of kind of righteous, I am correct, and you are wrong, blame, cycle or it leads to, I see that you are other and incorrect. Holy shit. That's interesting. Exactly

1. What we are really fighting about when we’re fighting about the dishwasher.

2. We can stop asking whether what’s missing is a “want” or a “need” – and the question to ask instead.

3. How to use what most frustrates you about your partner to bring you closer.

4. How to start thinking of our partnerships as our own mini political systems.

5. What to do if your partner won’t go to therapy, or if you’re feeling invisible in your relationship.

About Dr. Guralnik:

Dr. Orna Guralnik is a psychoanalyst and writer, who serves on the faculty of NYU PostDoc, National Institute for the Psychotherapies, the Stephen Mitchel Center, and the editorial boards of Psychoanalytic Dialogues and Studies in Gender & Sexuality. Her writing centers on the intersection of psychoanalysis, dissociation, and cultural studies. She has completed the filming of four seasons of the Docu-series Couples Therapy, airing on Showtime.

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