Face your garma, because that's the only way to get free of it. You will be amazed at how many thousands of helping hands you will find when you start to accept responsibility for yourself. A successful relationship is not about perfection. It's about mistakes and forgiveness. If you're trying to avoid negative gotemas, you don't know what's the proud boys of to day. We're all ignorant. None of us is omniscient. So the only strategy to use is to embrace it,. To move from ignorance and avoidance, we will enter into enlightenment.