The Importance of Clarity in Conversations

i'm in the process of training to be a clinical communication skills facilitator at Cambridge and i've only got like one session left before i become fully qualified. One thing that comes to mind is why we frame everything in terms of comparison with other things for example even now you're talking about like uh you know the i thought this thing was really impressive or something like that. We want to express how we feel without necessarily it kind of judging the value of an experience we've already had as being good or bad. How did that go is asking specifically for a value judgment whereas how did that feel is asking for the feelings which is actually what we want to get to have without without doing a value