i don't mean to sell out my mum, but because we share dana, i know in those moments, there is a flailingness to it. And that's actually one of the things i like about her. She wants something real. She wants the real stuff. It seems so simple talking to you nowiout in the moment. But there i am at lunch, and i have a show to do that night. But you're right, it's all identity. When we talk about boundaries, it's usually a sense of me on top, in control. Yo, not vulnerable, winning. Did ye say winning? Y, winning. I'm a winning thing. And