Is There a Barrier to Intimacy?

A lot of women have learned while I'm supposed to be the guard, the guardian of virtue here in our sexual relationship. That's one version of it so I've got I can't let myself think and feel sexual if I need to be managing his sexuality. And a lot of my work is waking people up to what they're doing. So that's absolutely the work I'm doing is helping people see the what they are doing. There's often a large discrepancy between what we tell ourselves and what we in fact do. You know people say sex is safe in playground but I think it's in that discrepancy because we tell ourselves ideas about who we are and what we want"