Children who are secure have low avoidance and low anxiety, right? They're willing to try new things. And then we also have like an anxious attachment, which is when people are very, very high anxiety a but ther's also, they may be willing to engage with other people. So this comes from a sort of inconsistent parenting. And then you'll also have like, avoid an attachment. This is the kind of thing we're lofe, like, if i share emotional vulnerability and you don't meet me at where i'm at, then i'm going to start resenting you for not meeting my needs. The lesson that i learn is, what kind of relationships can I form