242: Come as you are with Emily Nogaski
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy
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The Relationship Between Pleasure and Desire
We have been taught the wrong thing about what our body means, says Iven. We tend to want more of things we like, but there's a big difference between sitting and eating ice cream and just enjoying the hell out of how delicious this mouthful is. Heterosexual women's genitals will respond to kind of anything that even gestures in the direction of being sex related. That does not mean your experiencing pleasure. It means something sex related is happening. And when i was working as a sexual violence respons crisis responde, i would listen to stories of terrible things that had happened to people who were turned on by non concordant sex. Then i learned about arousal from non-con
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