"Instead of using your weekends to escape your life, use your weekends to create a life you don't want to escape," she says. "When you continue in your unwanted porn habit, you are settling when you are not taking care of your brain and not focused on your brain." 'You settle for a mind racing with regret, a life full of fear and shame,' he adds. "'Stop accepting lies about what we're capable of' is the best advice I've ever been given,'" Judd Apatow writes.