The Dangers of Dating in a Queer Community

I think it's okay to lean into that and then negotiate your own boundaries with what that looks like for you. I've totally seen this happen like a queer person goes through a breakup and they're still deeply in love with their former partner. And so they purposefully go after somebody that their ex has been with before as a way of getting back at them. So obviously there's nothing wrong with being nosy, but we need to be careful about triangulation.