Men and women are very different. What we think is not going to upset them may potentially upset them. One thing I would say to men is when a woman's fighting with you, she's actually fighting for you. And so stupidly, we fight when we care too much. Annoyingly. Do you think more couples should go to counseling? Every single one should do it, especially before they have children. You owe your children a stable home. Before you go down that route, make sure you too can at very least co-parent if worse comes to worse.