I think there are multiple benefits from a couple where it isn't working being able to ideally as consciously as possible say like this this in like a We still got this way. Your relationship is the air you create and your kid lives in that air So if it is toxic air And there is nothing you can do you can't find each other You just create toxic air together. It's so much better to part Yeah, and to keep your kid out of that air and What's funny, you know in my in my parents one of the things that I've noticed that I've learned and this is a big Of course in miracles thing is that you unconsciously believe and the way that the ego works