Paying Attention Is Like Watching for What You Don't Know

Paying attention is something like watching for what you don't know. And so one of the things i often recommend to my clinical clients if they're having trouble with a family member, is, number one, shut up. No more personal information. Number two, watch them like a hawk and listen. If you do that long enough, they will tell you exactly what they're up to. And then you'll be shocked, because they think you 're something, generally speaking, that's not like what you are at all. But attention is an unbelievably powerful force. You see this in psychotherapy too,. Because a lot of what you do and in any reparative relationship, is