We need to remember that in the face of hot and cold behavior, damn you fine. We shift our focus from wondering how they see you back to how you see you. That's a place where you're like, e damn i am fine. And then our focus stays there, wondering, projecting, over thinking how they see us. It's no wonder it makes us self conscious, it makes us doubt ourselves - we're naturally going to do that. So what I say is this: They've gone from hot to cold on me, and i'm going to start wondered what they think of me. Ok, fine. But i'mgoing to do it in a way that fires me