How Do You Transform?

If you're socially anxious, one of the things you should do is pay way more attention to the person you're talking to. And you should pay as little attention as possible to yourself. Don't sit there thinking about what you're going to say next - then you'll make a fool out of yourself. It's like if you're dancing and all you're paying attention to is where your feet are, then yu're going to step on the other person all the time. So you want to pay attention to the other person, and then whatever automatized social knowledge you have will come to the forefront. You can practise that with people, and so then they develop something that's...