Oscar's father represented the only person that was he was able to connect with like they talk about his um like oxymoron battles and those sorts of moments that they have together. They literally speak a language that he can't connect with his motherUm and speak with her so he's almost sort of beyond the shame and the guilt and all that that you're you know with talking about as well. Andrew: I think sometimes when you do have someone that just kind of gets you especially when you lose that person there can be a inability to see how other people can also be that for you or Oscar in this case it doesn't just have to be your dad.