The Importance of Saying No

Many of our people pleasing habits are out of view yet insidious. Putting off speaking to a co-worker about an issue with their work and then staying late or delaying your own work because you worry about hurting their feelings. Deciding to each your mother's chocolate pie, even though you have a gluten sensitivity and a lactose intolerant because you'd rather grapple with an upset stomach than chance disappointing her. Calling yourself too sensitive, needy, selfish and difficult because you feel uncomfortable and increasingly resentful about the friend who repeatedly dumps on you while never taking an interest in what's going on in your life. Listening to a date, talk about past relationships and difficulties and then deciding that you won