In a given day the phone call you don't want to make. For most people their relationship with the pain and the inconvenience is to avoid it. So if you could be yeah but if you could say yourself on the other side of this is this other self. And so whatever your pain is right now relationships has ended financially something that's difficult for you to do maybe you're trying to lose weight. Whatever it might be on the other end of that temporary pain is the other self.