How to Overrely on External Validation in the Gay Community

Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation.

External validation is when you derive your self-worth from sources outside of yourself while Internal validation is when your self-worth comes from within. 

Unfortunately, many people rely on the external at the expense of the internal, thereby creating a situation where you are hustling to prove yourself to others and are over-sensitive to their criticism.  

In this special two-part series, we’re welcoming back to the show, Reno Johnston, to discuss how we can develop a more secure sense of self-worth using both external and internal validation. 

In part 1, we’ll be focusing on the external by discussing things like:

• Why do we crave external validation?
• In what ways do gay men typically seek it?
• What are the benefits?
• When does does become an issue?

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• Michael DiIorio
• Matt Landsiedel
• Reno Johnston

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