The Difference Between Boundaries and Control

"I really believe that a lot of people have it backwards about boundaries," he says. "You can ask your friend not to call you at 4am That doesn't mean they're not going to call you in the morning." A boundary isn't what you tell people to do or not do, but how you respond and interact with them. The only thing you can control is yourself as Jesus taught us: Don't rely on anyone else for anything.