i grew up with parents who e were livingw were living their own lives, let's say that's kind of a code. And i was paying hyper attention to how they were feeling, because i think id something not, maybe not my mamma's much,. But it was a shambersome narsicism, yes, butts in the code. I don't know ye was in the codend. But also, like it reading the room changed my life for the better. Yes. If i noticed that they were pinched, gripy, angry, happy, this that i use to have my parents sign contracts i would write if they were up and and they agreed to