Amean writ i reminds me of kids. Have a tendency to blame themselves. Because it gives them a sense of control. So that's one thing, like interms of how much agency do you collect? It also reminds me of something you said earlier. You said you' like to think in terms of a hypothesis. And i always say, well, my theory is,. i think its for to say, obviously disimilar reark, but for the same reasons. The point is, well, i know i believe this, but there's possibly i could be wrong. In both cases, er making it like we're giving ourselves the feeling like it will be ok if we're wrong