Love Languages Make Me a Good Doctor

i think a good relationship is like good customers service. Treat the person they want to be treated. We struggle understanding each other's love languages, because we are such bad communicators. And so if you don't know what your spouse needs, like my husband and i's love languages are so different. He as words of affirmation. I am acts of service. It's not easy for me. So i sometimes sit there and think, what can i say to him that will make him recognize what i already feel?