The Importance of Repairing Quickly

If the relationship is insecure functioning, it is going to accrue threat. People don't understand if they don't repair that they're actually getting closer to death in the interim. When there's a breach in the attachment system, we actually, a part of us, wonders whether the relationship will exist tomorrow. That puts us into a state of mind that is very primitive,. like we did in infancy, if mommy dies, I die.