The Conflict to Self Conflict

There's something that I have imprinted in my head from just all of the conversations we had as something that you said there is at all conflict to self conflict and I want to get to that in a minute but something was triggered in my mind. How come most of us need the approval of other people? Because we are not all. And therefore, we look to any and all arenas in order to steal the holes within ourselves. The only one who can really live is the one who arrives, arrives whole. When there is no need, there's freedom. Is that part of the game so the game doesn't become.