The Shadow Side to Self-Help

We're taught so much to like get over it. Don't dwell on your past. Don't don't do all that. And to a degree, I agree. We can get lost in the there's a spectrum, right? The other side is not dealing with it at all and pretending it's not there. If you're not letting it come out and you're not doing any work on it, you're going to burnout by having to constantly suppress it and not deal with it.