Well, that's awesome. And I can add a few more words there. One of the cool things about your story is that we kind of came up together. Although remotely, I mean, you've been a fan of our show since, I think, pretty much day one, like five years ago. And you and I have kind of been together on this journey because you've climbed the ranks quite quickly and quite effectively. Since you started here, at the moment, as we record, like you said, you've gotten really deep into coaching, your competition footage is amazing. You just, for example, I went toe to toe with another BJG mental models alumni, Nikki Sullivan. And that was an awesome, awesome result too. So I'm super happy to see that. And of course, because you're a premium subscriber of ours, I know that a lot of our coaches have worked with you to kind of provide footage breakdowns and guidance. And the cool thing is now that you're kind of competing at this level, you're actually doing some coaching for the next generation of people, which is just amazing for me to see. And the kind of relationship we've got going on here, where we've got coaches growing coaches. And that's actually awesome to hear about that about you running that open mat. I had no idea that you were doing this. And that's fantastic to hear. Yeah. Yeah. I remember like

seeing the first version of BJG mental models, it was like an HTML web page. And it was basically like a staggered bullet list of mental models. And now it's this like whole community. Like you

said, we've been talking on Discord in the premium community for, I think, like four or five years now. And yeah, it's been really great. Thanks. I definitely appreciate that. And yes, I actually still have that giant ass bulleted list on our website. I've been meaning to clean that up and make it a bit more accessible, but it's just so much work, you know, you've got a whole almost like a wiki there of Jiu Jitsu concepts. It takes a long time to write that stuff and to update it and to make it look nice and structured well. So that is a project for me. But the topic today that we wanted to discuss, I wanted to specifically have you on here, because I know this is something you've thought deeply about. I think you're probably the poster woman for people who deal with this kind of problem. And it's also one of our most requested issues that people want to talk about. And that is, I mean, there's a few different ways you could call it. I refer to it as tactical meanness, but I think your name might be better, which is just stop being nice. A lot of grapplers come into the sport and they don't necessarily have this killer mindset where they want to go out there and fight and scrap all the time. Some of us are kind of mild mannered and our personality types don't lead well to high pressure competition. It just doesn't feel natural to us. And at a certain level, you have to develop the ability to kind of put your natural niceness aside and go out there and be mean when it's competition time. But I think it's worth expanding on what that means. What we're talking about when we're saying be nice, be mean. So with that said, Beatrice, I know that you've put a lot of thought into how to organize this conversation. I'll turn it over to you. What does niceness look like here? And when we're talking about how we train on the mats, how does that manifest and what kind of situations can that cause? Yeah. So I kind of like wanted to break this down into a bunch of facets because I feel like

there's a very literal way of discussing what's mean and nice. It's just saying like, are there techniques or like ways of sparring that are mean or nice? But I also think like the more complicated conversation that people are having with themselves and maybe with their training partners is like that figurative social discussion where asking like, should I be letting people work if their level is a lot lower than me? How mean or aggressive should I be in training if I want to be training for competition? But like, how can I train not so hard that I burn out and potentially hurt my training partners? There's also like being nice where I feel like a lot of maybe lower belts or just when you're being approached by someone much higher level than you, but what we feel bad about going really hard either because it feels like we're going after somebody just because their level is higher. And there's also like the opposite, right? Where like, are we being mean if we like, you know, take advantage of a lower belt by like really beating them hard? Is that considered mean or is that just showing them that jujitsu works? And then the final facet would just be like a little bit more gendered approach that I feel like some women are asking, which is like, do I always need to be nice to other women who step into the gym? Because a lot of the times women are the minority. And you know, is it our duty to help lower belt women or beginner woman on to the mat or is that a responsibility that needs to be shared by everyone regardless of whether they're men or women? So that's a lot of like, you know, niceness and meanness that we can discuss. We can like talk about like the techniques for us. Like, that's the most straightforward. And then we can like talk more about the figurative and like social aspect of it.