Do You Know What Object You Are for the Other?

"To be made object by the other is like, absolutely untenable. Horrible." "You don't know what object you are for the other in that scenario," he says. "It's especially clear if you've ever been on the other side where you've been interviewing people,. You don't even know what you're looking for". 'I think SART would agree with, probably all of that'