Is Your Husband Talking About You?

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Gossiping about your husband is a sign that he's not listening to you properly. You need to make him aware of what people are saying behind his back, and then address it directly with the person in question. Research shows when people know they might be gossiped about, they behave better because they don't want to be the subject of gossip. If this behaviour continues or worsens, you just call out and say, i heard from so and so that you disagree with me. Next time you feel that way, please come to me directly. And sometimes people respond to that directness, and they may actually react negatively but still change the behavior.

Lynne has a colleague in a different department whose work is interdependent with hers, and he’s been surreptitiously encroaching on the scope of her role. He’s also been criticizing her behind her back. During their regular one-on-one meetings, he says everything’s fine, and he never mentions the work he’s doing that falls outside of his responsibilities.

When she raised these issues to him, he changed the subject. Lynne worries that the ongoing bad-mouthing and overstepping are damaging her reputation. What should she do? What should you do if you find yourself in a similar situation?

In this episode, Amy G talks with Lynne and recommends tactics for her to try. By the end of the episode, Lynne has a clear way forward and knows what she needs to do to improve her working relationship and protect her career.

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